Today is a good day to be alive
Do you wonder what would be the features of an amazing mentor? Well, there are many answers but one is for sure: those are the mentors who have their wide range of experiences aside their good qualities… the ones who were not afraid to Fail!
Meet one among them! Jose Antonio Morales is an award-mentors within the current QC My best fail story of the year 2013 at the C:F platform. Jose is Chief Failure Officer (wow!!!) at The Fail and Fear Conferences and founder of http://lincolnisland.com. However here are some words from Jose himself. Below find the January 2014 interview that C:F team made with Jose!
CF: First of all, you are part of an amusing growing initiative, The Fear and Fail Conference, which feels for sure that aligns with the current C:F Quick Challenge. Could you explain first for the global C:F community, what is this initiative to contribute for society?
JOSE: We’d like to participate in the creation of a society that acknowledges that fear and failure can be useful and acceptable. We’d like to contribute to create the conditions necessary for a thriving and entrepreneurial society. On one side, fear and failure can paralyze. On the other side, recognizing fear and failure can provide wisdom, growth and many other benefits.
CF: Can you share shortly a piece of maybe your best fail story in life so far, in terms of developing your visions to reality?
JOSE: The problem with past failure stories, is that after a while they become part of a story of success and they no longer feel as a failure. A few years ago I caught an opportunity to move from Slovenia to New York with my family. The conditions were great; we got premium health insurance, housing and school for my kids… I assumed an important and creative role for a small company and the project was extremely motivating. Moving to NY meant many things: my wife would travel with a companion visa and that means no working permission; my kids would have to start school in English; my business in Slovenia would have to be closed.
After more than a year in NYC, I started finding some conflicts and potential problems. I expressed my worries and proposed alternative solutions. The manager transformed from receptive to defensive and the environment became hostile. More than that, every other team member felt the same and I observed some unfair situations all around. Sharing my worries caused a very negative environment and my solutions would not spark any light. After few months trying to improve the situation, I felt as if my values were being mistreated. I transformed the problem in a moral issue, making myself a paladin of my ideals. That caused even a stronger reaction from the manager. I decided to resign.
From one side the decision was right. But on the other side, my decision was not going to help the business to succeed. My contribution in the company didn’t achieve any lasting effect, and today the company isn’t operating anymore. I’m not saying that the manager is guilty, or that I’m guilty. What I’m saying is that I failed to achieve the business goals, I failed to overcome the conflicts I encountered. Transforming my position in to a defender of noble values helped me to take a decision but harmed my attempts to improve the business.
While deciding to resign, I was determined to get the best out of our time investment in the US. All the family registered to fantastic training courses, we bought books, we visited as many museums as possible. We wanted to return home, to Slovenia, nourished. I started the ideation process for what was going to be my new business and found the right partners. Since we returned, I’m living the happier moments of my life to date.
CF: What is the best advise you would give to CF youth community and to youth in general?
JOSE: As always, today is a good day to be alive. The new generations are definitively going to place humanity to a higher level, where global citizenship, equality, diversity and sustainability are going to be top priorities. But that wouldn’t be possible without the success and failure of previous generations.
Do not forget that younger and older, expert and ignorant, local or foreign: we are all together, we need each other to fulfill our individual potential. Every single word or idea that separates a group of human beings from others, are just words or ideas. First of all, never forget that you are part of something bigger, you’ll never be alone.
Indeed, we could not agree more. You will never be alone in Growr community.